Are you always the one apologizing?

Constantly questioning and blaming yourself?

Do you often feel confused, frustrated, and angry?

Are you aware that something isn’t right about your relationship, but can’t put your finger on what it is?


If you answered yes to any of these questions, you’re not alone. Nearly half of all women—and men—in the United States experience psychological abuse without realizing it. Manipulation, deception, and disrespect are hard to detect because they leave no physical scars, but they can be just as traumatic. In this groundbreaking book, Avery Neal, psychotherapist and founder of the Women’s Therapy Clinic, helps you recognize the warning signs of what she terms “subtle abuse.” As you are able to accurately identify patterns that have never made sense before, you are better equipped to make changes to free yourself from ongoing aggression and control. As an expert in the field, Neal has guided countless individuals to regain their self-esteem, their joy, and their lives, in the wake of this type of unhealthy relationship. Here you’ll discover:

*Why subtle abuse is often hidden and overlooked

*How to recognize an abuser

*What personality traits make you more susceptible to mistreatment

*The reasons we stay in toxic relationships—why it’s so hard to leave when we’re being mistreated

*How to avoid another abusive relationship, believing the next one will be different  


*Letting go of co-dependency

*Moving from victim to survivor—life after abuse

*Making room for yourself

You’ll also find invaluable real-life accounts illustrating the various faces of subtle abuse. From letting go of fear to setting boundaries, whether you’re gathering the courage to finally leave or learning how to guard against a chronically abusive pattern, If He’s So Great, Why Do I Feel So Bad? will help you enjoy a happy, healthy, fulfilling life, free of shame or blame.

“The message Avery Neal conveys in this book couldn’t be more timely.”
Lois P. Frankel, Ph.D., New York Times bestselling author of Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office

“The new gold standard in abuse recovery. Warm and compassionate, this book describes the indescribable experience of subtle abuse with astounding accuracy.”
Jackson MacKenzie, author of Psychopath Free

“This book can open eyes for people who may have lost pieces of themselves along the way. …Great examples and exercises. It is a companion from start to finish.”
Dr. Jay Carter bestselling author of Nasty People

“Avery Neal offers just what every person in a dysfunctional relationship needs: no-nonsense insights into the subtle abusers who can cause you to lose your sense of dignity and practical ways to regain control of and empower your life.”
George Simon, Ph.D., author of Character Disturbance and In Sheep’s Clothing

“Avery Neal has put a recognizable face on the insidious villain of subtle abuse. Of course, abuse rarely remains subtle, and this insightful book can awaken self-esteem, save relationships, even save lives.”
Gavin de Becker, New York Times bestselling author of The Gift of Fear

If He’s So Great, Why Do I Feel So Bad? will be published in March, 2018. You can pre-order now on Amazon.